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Mental what?! 🧠

Hi, I’m Debashish Reang. And I’ve probably waved at you when you saw me. This is probably gonna be the last long post that I write this year. I will attempt to articulate my thoughts on “mental health”. I hope my parents, relatives and friends would understand when they read this and choose to not pass on mean comments and I guess I am risking losing a lot of “good acquaintances” here.

Let’s start with the way we were brought up. Our parent(s)/caretaker(s) provided us with almost everything we ever needed and we really had nothing much to worry about. However, life is quite different once we get into college because we are out of that protective shell and the “shield” that you had is no more. For some of us (count me in), the freedom is rather overwhelming. I won’t say I misused it, but it made me venture into domains where I’ve never been to. This has it’s own ups and downs. We are at that stage of life where we question everything and draw conclusions to everything without considering past events or the brighter future. An example of drawing haphazard conclusion can be that you fail a test and right away conclude you’re worthless or stupid. It is important to remember that you’re among the brightest minds of the country in your age group and there is no particular way to quantify how better someone is at something than the other.

Many say that the society, parents, institutes etc. demand a lot from us and this forces us to sometimes undertake steps that the general consensus might consider strange or alien-ish. It is true that the expectations are there but please stop for a second and think, are you not part of the same society? when you grow older you probably are going to pass on the same practices that were imposed on you, because you see it’s much easier to forget about tough stuff than to confront them. Instead, at least at the individual level accept that yes things are expected of you but why must you listen to everyone else but yourself? for god’s sake please talk to your parents and tell them how you feel and how you are different. all that they want is your betterment. is the system flawed? yes, definitely but shouldn’t we try to fix it? blaming a particular institution or party won’t do anyone any good. instead we could be more accepting when things go wrong and be able to present our viewpoints to anyone especially our parents. we cannot lose any more loved ones. seeing posts about people taking their own lives and attempting to hurt themselves because of the societal pressure saddens me the most. your life is precious and you should realise it. you only have one life for god’s sake. why don’t you fight what’s eating you up from the inside and proclaim to the world that you exist for a reason?